A 67-year-old casualty of the gentrification of Cayucos

September 13, 2020

Editor’s Note: The following series, “Life in Radically Gentrifying Cayucos by the Sea,” to be posted biweekly includes the notes, thoughts, and opinions of an original American voice: author Dell Franklin.

By DELL FRANKLIN

If you live here, or have lived here for three decades, you’ve probably seen her around, though she’s shy and private, the kind of person who likes to hide. You can drive for half an hour on a trip with her and she will be silent, thinking, musing, fretting, dreading, fearing, until she finds herself in a highly anxious state.

That kind of person. For those of us who have confidence and a larger supply of courage in a world where some measure of courage is needed, it is hard to understand a person or people who are timid, afraid, and terribly vulnerable.

That she is astronomically intelligent and has a college degree and can discuss most any subject with logic and a profound perspective, doesn’t and hasn’t seemed to help.

That for years she worked at jobs far below what a college degree demanded, also did not help. But what did help was that she always worked, has been working since she was a little girl, was always on time, outworked everybody, and was so pleasant working with the public that people who came to the hotels she ran wrote about her on Yelp and Facebook, and left her little notes of what pleasure she’d given them.

Perhaps they recognized her bleeding heart, a person who could not inflict pain without suffering two-fold, and who seemed somehow to find herself in pain much of the time, and was and is perhaps too sensitive for this world. A person who treated everybody as if they were as sensitive as she is.

Some people are this way. And, of course, at one time she was head-turning beautiful, and because of her nature, ended up in one wild yet painful relationship after another.

But she always worked, and worked, and for the last 27 years lived by herself in Cayucos, and for over a decade lived in a meticulously neat little one-bedroom stand-alone apartment one house up from the beach for a reasonable rent, until it was sold and razed and the real pain began.

How do you manage to remain in Cayucos at what is these days called an “essential job?” Especially when health problems crop up, and then the drinking.

Well, she managed, and managed for years and years, as rents sky-rocketed, and she became older, and the fretting and dread and lacerating fear took over; and when one job ended the next was harder to come by at an age when youth is demanded, and things are supposed to be easier for people approaching social security.

But it’s not easy. Friends helped. There’s some big-hearted people in this town, people who have known her for years and understand, the same kind of people who will help anybody in need, and we all know who they are.

But, in the end, along with health problems, she ended up in the streets, a delicate thing used to the cleanest of hygiene, an HD TV, piped in blues and jazz, and magazines like the New Yorker and Vanity fair—no longer with an address to be mailed to.

She sold just about everything valuable and sentimental that she had accumulated over a lifetime—jewelry, heirlooms from her family (who would not help!), clothes elegant enough for a fashion model, crystal goblets from Ireland; little reminders of the good things in life that just glancing at in hard times made her feel better, including gorgeous, comfortable furniture.

So she ended up with just about nothing but her car, a small sedan, which she lived in, and was forced to sleep sitting halfway up instead of upon a bed she invested in that was fit for a queen.

So now it was strictly social security, the total of which was not enough to come close to paying for a studio garret in Cayucos, let alone a small comfy one bedroom.

Her health declined. Several trips to the emergency room. “Sorry,  a care facility is above your pay grade!”

Hours spent every morning in a public restroom. Dropping in on friends to get her clothes laundered and take the occasional shower. Staying in a cheapo motel when the money comes in—for at least a couple nights—so she could finally luxuriate in a long hot shower, watch some TV, and zap some food from the local market, hoping it would not cause a riot in her bleeding ulcer.

This is what happens when one lives in dread and fear.

A woman approaching 70 living in her car, selling the car and buying an old van, which makes for a more comfortable night’s sleep, so she didn’t have to bend from the front seat and lay her head on the shotgun seat on a weekday morning along the seawall as strollers walk by and peek in.

Nobody can tabulate the sadness and loss of pride and abject humiliation a person inflicts on themselves in  this situation, as they sit in their cramped, claustrophobic home-on-wheels and watch those who live in real homes circulate all around them, living the life they once did, which now seems unattainable in the future, so that one is left with a whole lot of hopeless nothingness, and little to look forward to for a delicate woman desiring only a few feminine luxuries in her life, and a shred of integrity.

Think she’s angry and bitter? Try those shoes on.

There’s a lot of crying involved. Plenty of men, old and young, live like this, but they are more suited for it, can protect themselves, and do not experience dread and fear, but instead, because of their presence, possibly are fearsome to others observing them because of their desperate states.

But not this lady. She is mostly alone, heading down the loneliest road possible. And it just doesn’t seem fair in the wealthiest country in the world.

Postscript: At 67 years old, and because she suffers from acute colitis and a bleeding ulcer, she has been parking overnight near the public restrooms. But now the sheriff’s have warned her not to park there anymore, threatened to fine her $250 and tow her van, and told her to “get out of town.” She is terrified.


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mr.giles

Yes i can relate my SSI check is randomly changed everytime i move…was 1206 in sunny san luis obispo then moved for school to rohnert park and now its been reduced to the 943 range ..i could appeal but why bother the government…i hope this woman knows her soul is worthy.

Great read thanks for article


Gramelin

I know who you are talking about. And She is in my prayers! I prayed somehow, someone has and extra room they can rent at a reasonable rate? I cried when I first heard her story. How can life, especially at the late part of life, leave you in such a position? I’m sorry but homeless shelters are not accomodating! And for little old women, they can be dangerous. How about someone with a big hearts like hers, open theirs and offer a little security? I will keep praying until I hear she is properly housed.


Paul Butterman

I’m a Trump republican so I don’t like much of what Franklins ays but I liked this article. i think someone could help the woman out. Another woman her age that maybe has REAL faith in God and is a recovering alcoholic like myself. This sound like a good woman to me just cane on some hard times.


jimmy_me

So you own a house or apartment that you don’t live in… Shelter is a person’s basic need, but do you ride the wave of rising rents or not? Must be a lot of profit for owners who rent. I’m trying to use the words “kindness” and “loyalty” in this post, but I can’t.


shelworth

Maybe Cayucos should do what Los Osos did, designate a street for homeless parking. If you don’t have enough homeless to fill it, import them from SLO.


laysha

Some people have been really up in arms in Los Osos about this. Those are the people that believe (for some reason) that living outdoors means you’re not “from here” and I’m tempted to post this story on Nextdoor as an illustration of how you can have nowhere to live but your car, and still be more “local” than someone who bought a Mcmansion 10 years ago. Of course the idea of building affordable housing always gets dismissed in those discussions.


jimmy_me

Let’s all admit there is not such thing as affordable housing in this area; the best we can do is make some housing a bit less expensive than all the other housing. Such housing is still not affordable. The locals resist such building, the land is expensive, and then everyone makes a profit on top of that (county fee, builders, realtors, etc.).


sansimeonsam1

i have lived here 33 years and resent a lot of what Wiburs owner has to say about us. Now agree that the new arrivals from LA have brought their disease and Trump flags to ruin our town, but i also don’t appreciate the sanctimonious nature of the articles. In this case, this woman could avail herself of any or all of the services we taxpayers support to assist those less fortunate.


Ricky2

Dell’s a gem, and his stories are jewels. What a shame this is a case of casting pearls before swine, judging from some of the comments.


Boldguy

Dell you and Wilbur have had things to easy, time to bring a little chaos into your world!!!

I’m sure she would be so appreciative of moving in and taking care of those little details that you didn’t even know you missed!!!

Maybe even add a little color into your life, those hoodies you wear around town are pretty drab and thread bare, step it up big guy:)


Laughlines

This is difficult to read. Obviously Mr. Franklin is deeply concerned about this lady. Perhaps this won’t help, and maybe she’s already tried this avenue, but the County does have services for the homeless


https://www.slocounty.ca.gov/Departments/Social-Services/Homeless-Services.aspx


I hope she can get some assistance.


ShootTheMessenger

They say if you don’t like it don’t read it.

I DIDN’T


Paul Butterman

How did you know you didn’t like it?