Ex-wife pillories council hopeful Paul Brown

May 28, 2013

Jayne BrownOPINION By JAYNE BROWN

I have read and been stirred by the letters to the editor supporting Paul Brown for a seat on San Luis Obispo City Council.

Because the true facts have been buried or hidden, understandably, none of them hint of the domestic violence that led to our divorce after four years of marriage, nor of the three-year restraining order granted after a thorough court case hearing both our testimonies.

I have remained silent out of a lingering sense of shame created by a painful and very public court case, in which I felt the stigma of being labeled a victim of domestic violence, a feeling I understand is shared by domestic violence victims who often are at a loss for how to respond or whether to speak at all.

Unfortunately, my silence has allowed some untruths to perpetuate. I feel the city of San Luis Obispo voters may benefit from my voice and personal perspective now while they consider who will best serve the people of this community.

Here are some facts our community may want to consider:

— In September of 2007, I sought the help of the San Luis Obispo Women’s Shelter and court system to establish a protective domestic violence restraining Order against my then husband, Paul Brown;

— The abuse was documented with photos and hospital/doctor records;

— Although a restraining order was entered, Paul has continued to deny any responsibility for the abuse that has been documented;

— After the divorce finalized, Paul and his attorney requested the restraining order be allowed to expire–claiming the Order made finding employment difficult for Paul. The judge allowed it, warning Paul not to contact me;

— Despite Paul’s claims to the contrary, the expiration of the restraining Order in no way invalidated or overturned the original Judgment;

— Paul’s behavior both during our divorce and what has been publicly reported about him since our divorce, in my mind, has revealed his questionable character, and his careless nature.

I’m breaking my silence now because like schoolyard bullies, domestic violence abusers who seek power and control over others are too often fueled by silence and apathy.

As I am no longer a victim but a survivor of domestic violence, I’m putting an end to my own contribution to Paul Brown’s behavior by speaking out. I’m also speaking to empower other domestic violence victims who don’t deserve to bear the burden of shame. That shame, here, belongs exclusively to the abuser, Paul Brown.

I have seen enough to know we can do a whole lot better.

Also, supporting documents are a matter of public record. The San Luis Obispo Women’s Shelter is authorized to confirm I used their services. I remain grateful for their guidance, council, and support.


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SLOshank

Here is my take on this sordid situation:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JommGEH2HMQ


(My apologies for the 5 second glitch at the beginning.)


ponygirl

Hey, someone has more time on their hands than me! Nice storyline, but sorry, its just that, a story. You guys are funny.


SamLouis

I had no idea that Carlyn Christianson was the Executive Director of the San Luis Obispo County Planned Parenthood operation from 1989 -1995. It would be absolutely impossible for anyone with a correctly formed conscience to serve in such a position. The last thing SLO needs is the director of an abortuary on our city council.


The Planned Parenthood Action Fund of Santa Barbara, Ventura and San Luis Obispo Counties has endorsed and given money to Christianson. This is hideous, evil stuff.


You can bet I’m going to vote for Brown.


Ted Slanders

SamLouis,


YOUR QUOTE: “The Planned Parenthood Action Fund of Santa Barbara, Ventura and San Luis Obispo Counties has endorsed and given money to Christianson. This is hideous, evil stuff.”


WAIT A DAMN MINUTE HERE! Relative to Planned Parenthood, and within the same vein, are you stating that it is evil and hidious for Christians to endorse their God, and to give their money to this God on Sunday mornings just because this God has aborted and killed thousands of innocent babies throughout the bible?! Huh?


The bible God slays the fruit of the womb of the women in Ephraim, which equals abortion. (Hosea 9:11-16)


God’s inspired word allows a brutal and abusive ritual to be performed on a wife that is “suspected” of adultery, which equals an induced abortion. (Numbers 5:11-21)


God orders the killing of women that have been with men, which equals aborting of fetus’ of pregnant women. (Numbers 31:17)


God promises to dash to pieces the infants of Samaria and the “their women with child shall be ripped up”.  Once again this god kills the unborn, including their pregnant mothers. (Hosea 13:16)

God allows the pregnant women of Tappuah to be “ripped open”. And the Christians have the audacity to say god is pro-life. How and the hell is it that Christians can read passages where God allows pregnant women to be murdered, yet still claim abortion is wrong? (2 Kings 15:16)


God commands the death of helpless “suckling” infants.  This literally means that the children god killed were still nursing. (1 Samuel 15:3)


God commands the death of helpless “suckling” infants.  This literally means that the children god killed were still nursing. (1 Samuel 15:3)


Here god is praised for slaughtering little babies. (Psalms 135:8 & 136:10)


Here god commands that infants should be “dashed upon the rocks.” (Psalms 137:9)


YOUR QUOTE: “The last thing SLO needs is the director of an abortuary on our city council..”


Within the same vein, you are purporting that the last thing SLO city needs is for the Hebrew-Christian God to be the director of the local Christian churches in our city because He killed innocent babies! How ungodly can you get, you God hater!?


Blaspheme!


Ted Slanders

Jayne and Paul, you were not to divorce each other, so saith the Hebrew-Christian God.


In Mark 10:9 Jesus states, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” No one is to ever break apart a marriage. I wouldn’t want to be a judge who grants divorces, nor would I want to be the lawmaker who allows for all sorts of unscriptural grounds for divorce, especially on Judgment Day.


In Matthew 5:32, Jesus said, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”


Because of the Matthean 5:32 passage above, divorced women are therefore adulterers. A quick reminder; Leviticus 20:10 commands that adulterers should surely be put to death. This is the law that Jesus was under at the time of His existence, and the law that is to be followed into the future as well. Therefore, this biblical FACT states that Jesus Himself called for the execution of divorced women!


Praise Jesus’ revenge against adulterers!


SLOBIRD

Wow, I just heard on KVEC that Jayne Issac Brown had attacked her boyfriend prior to marrying Mr. Brown, kicking in the boyfriends dashboard and demonstrating other acts of violence. Wow, a pattern of violence by Ms. Brown..


Also, since ponygirl stated in another opinion piece today that she is Lori Johnston, and according to Carlyn Christianson’s Facebook page (Google Lori Johnston Santa Margarita and it comes up) she is one of 59 written endorsements for Carlyn Christianson. Yep, this is solely about domestic violence for Jayne and her friend, Lori. Yep!


ponygirl

Yep, I endorsed Carlyn & gave her money, because I don’t care for the way Jayne was treated during their marriage. I could care less that it is on record. Here’s why: Paul Brown abused his wife. If it had been any other Bozo, I would have done the same. I don’t care for people who beat women, and neither should the voting public. And, let’s not forget: the ex-boyfriend retracted part of his “statement” a week after he gave it to Paul’s attorney, which should call into question the rest of his statement. Ex-partner’s coming forward should always be looked at askance…not the best source to go to when looking for an objective point of view when reporting on a person.


MaryMalone

I agree, ponygirl. Someone who is a domestic violence perpetrator has very serious issues that can manifest in other milieu, as well…including politics.


At its least-inflammatory reality, domestic violence perpetrators have REAL boundary issues, especially when it comes to power and control of others in the domestic relationship, when it comes to power.


People who have boundary issues simply don’t recognize the boundaries between “me” and “you” and “yours” and “mine.” This can be in a marriage or when it comes to abuse of power in politics. Certainly, not all politicians with “boundary issues” are also domestic violence perps. However, domestic-violence perp mindset of “I have the right to abuse the power I(physical or other) I have over you to control you” is scarily similar to the political-corruption mindset of “I have the right to abuse the power I have over you to harm you and benefit myself in politics.”


In domestic relationships, the “boundary issues” comprehensive reality involves a wide array of tactics, including violence, used on others in domestic relationships.


In politics, the “boundary issues” can manifest as sexual and physical abuse/harassment, corruption, misuse of public funds, etc.


I believe someone with a history of being a domestic violence perpetrator carries a risk of abusing the power they have over their constituents and people in the workplace. In my mind, that makes them a terrible risk when it comes to a voter’s decision in the voting booth.


Just my opinion…your mileage may vary.


MaryMalone

Here’s a clue….someone who knows a victim a physically violent domestic assault, would probably not vote for a candidate with a history of domestic violence.


Victims of domestic violence have lived it, and their friends and families become secondary victims, as well, because they live it with the victims. They know what extents a domestic violence perp will go to in order to control a person or situation. They see the changes in the victim over time, thanks to the behavior of the domestic violence perp.


I think any friend of a victim of domestic violence endorsing Christianson would make sense…especially one of the alternatives was a domestic violence perp.


Ugluk

One phrase leaps to mind after reading this article: “boiled bunny”.


Wish I lived in SLO so I could vote for Paul.


MaryMalone

Really? You make your voting decisions on a twisted interpretation of an extreme MOVIE?


mej

This just presents like a BITTER EX. What is missing is documentation from the police. If he did abuse her, he would have had jail time. I was with a friend who was obtaining a restraining order and it was amazing that the judge went on whose story sounded better. There was no evidence when he gave them out. This woman could easily have manipulated the system. I suspect that because of this viscous attack so much later. WHERE’s THE ARREST RECORD and CONVICTION?


MaryMalone

QUOTING MEJ: “If he did abuse her, he would have had jail time.”


You obviously don’t know much about domestic violence and the courts.


Very, very few case of domestic violence are every reported. Of those reported, even fewer are ever prosecuted. Of those prosecuted, even far fewer are ever jailed.


There are court-diversion programs which specifically seek to keep the perps (the vast majority of which are male) from going to jail.


r0y

If you only had read past that first sentence you quoted, you probably would not have put your foot in your mouth.


rogerfreberg

I think Paul Brown gave an excellent response to the statements of his very ex wife.


It is always sad to see to what lengths folks will take to try to sway an election… I think some of our anonymous friends would stand a little taller and look a little cleaner if they would share their real names… Anonymous posters have donned a hood like the riders of the past.


ponygirl

Here you go, Roger: Lori Johnston.


kayaknut

Because we all know that anyone is a position to take revenge would never do so if they knew the names of posters? or whistle blowers should just “man” up and not hide?


WiserGuy

Why would it make any difference if you knew my name, Roger?


I find my comments are just as effective no matter what name I go by. It’s the thought that goes into them that matters. Like for instance, you happen to use your “real” name, but your comments usually seem so ill conceived and I find them hard to respect.


I think you use your real name to bolster your ego, loving to see your name “in lights” so to speak. Me, I doh’t need or want the publicity. My comments stand just fine on their own.


MaryMalone

Yeah, real good idea. Provide a physical-world name for a post critical of someone whose lack of “boundary issues” ended up with, at the very least, a restraining order to keep him from further acts of domestic violence.


Why not just post a link to a Google map of the home address and be done with it?


SLOBIRD

I am sure that Mr. Brown knows ponygirl, she has been a friend of Jayne Issacs’ for 25 years according to her statement. I am also sure we would know where she lives. Mr. Brown has been divorced for 6 years, and since the restraining order has been lifted I think we can assume he has moved on and has no further contact or issues with Ms. Issacs. To bad that is not the same with her. She needs to move on in her life. We all know that Mr. Brown had a respectful and successful business downtown. We all know that Mr. Brown served well as a prior councilman. We all know he run a “clean” responsible campaign for mayor. Stop living in your glass house and move on because we al have things we have done in our lives we regret but we try to improve the errors of our way and become better people.


ponygirl

Yes, my husband and I, as well as my sister-in-law, have known Paul for many years. We thought he was a great guy until he started beating his wife.


GalaxyTraveler

This isn’t only about him choking his wife (she has the medical reports and pix) it’s about Mr. Brown’s anger and arrogance. I was verbally attacked by Mr. Brown on 2 occasions when he sat on the council. After myself and several others made legitimate public comments he didn’t like, he stopped the meeting and went on a 5 minute tirade starting with “I am sick and tired of you people”.


I was shocked at the time. I am a moderate, rationale person who likes to go to council meetings and voice opinions. I never dreamed a council member would try to intimidate SLO residents with anger…but he did it on many occasions.


What do you say, Paul? Are you gonna deny that too?? Probably. Bullies always lie and deny. But a lot of us remember.


kayaknut

Does this remind you of a certain firefighter following a encounter at a local bathroom???


SLOBIRD

Geez, GalaxyTraveler, reminds me of a supervisor that we have all talked about, some supporting him to the and others chastised for calling him out. Do you recall any of those blogs?


GalaxyTraveler

No comparison. Nice try.


MaryMalone

We agree again, GT.


It is an invalid comparison—unless the supervisor was also a mixed martial arts fighter who, while in a drunken rage, beat-down a neighbor such that the victim required 5 steel plates to hold his facial bones together and multiple facial wiring procedures, as well.


MaryMalone

Well….although JRMason definitely had “boundary issues, JRMason and his victim weren’t in a domestic-living situation, so that’s a stretch of a comparison to the Paul Brown situation. But it is an abuse-of-power attack used to attempt to control the actions of a neighbor, so there is some similarity.


MaryMalone

Okay, this is a great demonstration of how two people with a history of completely opposite opinions on issues on a public message board CAN agree on issues.


I don’t suppose there is video of the parts of the meeting where Brown’s abuse his power on the SLO City Council against members of the public with whom he disagreed?


CCWheelers

I was a victim of abuse… And with the help of the women’s shelter and a few other agencies, a restraining order was placed on me. I went to court and was verbally abused by all including the judge. I was trying to be a good man and do what was right for our children… She wanted nothing more than to ruin life because I fell out of love and tried to talk to her about it. I am speaking out for all those men out there that do not have the same rights as a woman. To this day, if she could cause problems for me she would. However I was labeled the abuser because I was male.


smallweirdperson

If your story is true, you of all people should know what it feels like to be a true victim. To be shamed and stigmatized, labeled by a social construct. “Hot-tempered Man”, “Lying Bitch”; these are the kinds of labels you imply we should be avoiding. Yet here you are, doing exactly the same to a person you don’t know at all.

If your hope was to reach out to men who have been put in the same position as you, this is not the appropriate forum. Telling your story here implies (hopefully unintentionally) that you question the legitimacy of her story and experience. Take a moment to consider that you are the exception- your experience is a rare failure of the judicial system. Take a moment to consider that men also have many rights that women have only recently been given. Respect this woman, her story, and her bravery for speaking out in a situation that she truly has nothing to gain from- except the expected objections from people just like yourself.

Your comment might be more useful in the Rants and Raves of Craigslist.

I support Jayne Brown.


As the world turns

The victim, Jayne Brown, is again victimized. Typical of people who are themselves abusers.


As the world turns

The one thing that is obvious from the comments is that there are a lot of right wing misogynists who will condone spousal abuse for their own politician win. Such a lack of moral character is sad.


SamLouis

Knock-off the bigotry and misandry already. You have absolutely nothing else in your quiver so you resort to the charges of “ring wing-ism” and misogyny with the hopes that it will sell. Sorry, but no sale.


This matter is seven years old. The timing tells me it’s a planned political strike. Nasty, filthy stuff that has no place in local politics.


ponygirl

And Sam, please, review previous posts. There is plenty of “left-leaning” blame being tossed about. Just sayin’.


As the world turns

Sam, the only bigotry is coming from people who want to cover up spousal abuse when it supports their political agenda. There is no need to sell anything when you are giving it away so freely.


SLOBIRD

So, As the world turns would state on this site he condemns what Adam Hill did to his wife, turning off utilities, cleaning out the bank accounts and cheating on this wife. And you would have no problem doing this during whatever campaign Adam Hill runs for no matter how many years down the road it may be. Please post your answer, I want to save it…


r0y

KA-POW!


Sounded like the knock-out blow to me!


MaryMalone

It is only a “knock-out blow” if you view whether a politician’s behavior is right or wrong based on his/her political party affiliation.


As the world turns

There are no “knock-out blows”. I do not support Adam Hall’s behavior. The issue that is being overlooked is this: spousal abuse, whether female or male, democrate or republican IS WRONG! Rather than defending your politician at any cost, it would be nice to hear statements like, “Spousal abuse is always wrong and ANYONE running for office who is an abuser should not be supported.” Instead, you run to defend your candidate and condemn the person who had to go to the Women’s Shelter for protection.


Jayne Brown shows courage to come out during the election lunatic season to present her painful experience in front of people who only know politics as normal. And, I’m surprised at Dave Congalton. He should know what courage it takes to speak about personal abuse.


SamLouis

Ouch! Well done!


It’s ALL about party politics. Thanks.


MaryMalone

NO, it is NOT all about politics.


Domestic violence can be made a political issue if the perp runs for a political office and folks become concerned about the same kind of power-abuse behavior that led to domestic violence might also be manifested as power abuse of an elected politician.


I am a very vocal critic of the behavior of Adam Hill and Bruce Gibson, and I am a liberal and registered Democrat. Some people do attempt to be ethical in their approach to politics.


SLOBIRD

Mary: No you feel the same way about the unethical corrupt behavior of Jan Marx supporting the Copeland Gang against Ernie Dalidio and her role in that illegal activity? Just seems like there is a lot of mud to throw around in this County, most of it against the Democrats (Gibson, Hill, Torres, Steinberg, Marx, etc.).


r0y

If you can spot the pattern here: Congratulations! You’re a logical person!


ponygirl

Well, if Mr Hill did those things, that sucks. But let’s be clear: it isn’t spousal abuse by a man who is about 6″5″ and 300lbs, now is it? Kind of puts things in perspective.


MaryMalone

Domestic violence isn’t a liberal or conservative deal. It really is a bipartisan tragedy.


I’m a liberal and registered Domecrat, and I have been a very vocal critic of Adam Hill AND Bruce Gibson.


There are some people who try to incorporate ethics in their political views.


Sarah Bellum

Not everyone who questions the veracity of the claims is a right winger.


r0y

No, but when one is wholly motivated by politics of the left, it often is. (Same could be said of the right, somewhere, I’m sure).


Sarah Bellum

Having heard Lori Johnston speak on the radio this afternoon, I’m persuaded that the motivation isn’t political. It’s personal. As in destroy Paul Brown by any means necessary. The Christianson campaign had nothing to do with it.


ponygirl

Yep, Sarah, it is personal. Not at whatever costs. Just letting the voting public know the character of a candidate. I am Lori. And I sat on the sidelines while Jayne & Paul were married…

By the way, I could care less what Paul does in the future as far as a career goes. Just as a potential elected official, voters should know the background & integrity of a potential candidate. Jayne is one of my friends, and I hope you never go thru what she went thru, or have to watch any friends deal with it. It is more pervasive than one would like to admit to, and Jayne isn’t the first of my friends to go thru this type of ordeal. All I ask of the public is to listen to one woman’s story & truth.

She also let the protective order be lifted, when Paul & his attorney requested it, because she felt like she wasn’t in danger of Paul anymore. BUT, there is a big difference between that, and what Paul claims happened: that the judge overruled the protective order. That is a blatant falsehood.


SLOBIRD

According to a New Times article. May 28, 2009, written by Patrick Howe 4 years ago,

(www.newtimesslo.com/news/…/judge-lifts-restraining-order-on-paul-bro…)


your statement above, “She also let the protective order be lifted” is nor quite correct…


According to the New Times article, it states… Jayne Brown said she fought against the change and was disappointed with the order. “Honestly, it appeared that the judge had sort of already made up his mind before we got there,” she said, adding that she hopes the reversal doesn’t discourage other women from reporting domestic violence.


She said, however, that she doesn’t intend to pursue the matter further, saying she was relieved that the couple’s legal tangles and divorce are over.


“That’s the rainbow in all this,” she said.


The End, Amen!


MaryMalone

NO. It isn’t “when one is wholly motivated by politics of the left.”


It is “when one is wholly motivated by politics.” (PERIOD)